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dizzyweasel
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i need to share a problem that jess and i are having. i NEED to talk about it, because it's on my mind a lot lately. but if jess minds, i'll take the post down.
best friends that try to change your relationship really bother me. jess and i both have a male best friend. jess has had hers for several years, i've had mine for nearly a decade. i knew mine was in love with me during high school, but it was one of those unspoken, ignored things. recently (since my break-up) my male best friend has been flirting, being suggestive and actually voiced the high-school love - with the understanding that it was still a desire he had. jess' male best friend told her awhile ago that he loved her.
jess and i share the problem that neither of us are in love with our male best friends, and we don't want to be. now, my relationship with my friend is really uncomfortable and strained, which was what i had feared in the first place! this makes doing some of the stuff we used to do quite hard, which is really upsetting, because i really value the friendship (obviously, since we've been friends for nearly 10 years).
what REALLY pisses me off is that this is the SECOND best friend i've had in the last 10 years that has done this! i no longer see the other one, because of this same problem. now, if jess declares her undying love for me, i'll be 3 for 3. yay!
so i guess what i just want to say is, everybody, if you're in love with your friend, but they don't reciprocate, drop it! or else you could lose your friend, because pursuing it just makes things more uncomfortable.
okay...rant over.
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albinoni 2
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I'll be always friend of Laura,even if she doesn't give me any kisses,because she is like me........and she'll be my only true love in my life.......because love-good friendship are so close that sometimes you want to give more.......Laura and also Shelley saved me from depression and misery.....only with a smile and some company
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dizzyweasel
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^ well, it never hurts to try for more, hon - and if it works out, then it's wonderful. but if the other person doesn't feel the same way, you just have to show them that 'just being friends' is still fine with you. then there are no problems, and everyone stays relatively happy.
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albinoni 2
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I am not expert in love matters.....so i can't help......for me it's already a miracle that i have some female friends.....i have never had in my life......but that for me is something like a ...... i don't know that is happened and i can control anything....that is a risk....i know,but i am sincere with the(few) poeple that i love so that was the only thing that i cuold do......and i have done it because i trust completely in that girl.......mah....the worst disgrace'll be if she will stop to write and meet me.....really i could cry for all a week and do nothing lying in my bed without eating and stuff like that
For the fragile people like me the love is that 
I became more and more fragile
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HelenePigen
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Arogant people, well I mean people who thinks they are so much better then everybody else, *bvadr* can't really stand that, and one of my friends has such a boyfriend, and he just pisses me so much off, and I could really smack him sometimes especially when he gets drunk, argh, he's annoying, and tonight me and my bf and some friends are going to some kind of festival tonight, and ofcourse he'll be there, and he'll be drunk... So yeah for that  |
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dizzyweasel
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cleaning up after your roommate - it's like having a boyfriend, with none of the perks.
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silvery
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| kids playing in the street and don't care about cars ... or stupid kids who drive their bike in the middle of the street so that car drivers aren't able to drive ... kids who stare at you cause you look not like the others ... okay, in general -> kids |
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Eos
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| Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2004 8:28 pm Post subject: |
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| albinoni 2 wrote: | | I'll be always friend of Laura,even if she doesn't give me any kisses,because she is like me........and she'll be my only true love in my life.......because love-good friendship are so close that sometimes you want to give more.......Laura and also Shelley saved me from depression and misery.....only with a smile and some company |
| dizzyweasel wrote: | | best friends that try to change your relationship really bother me. |
It happened to me twice that a friend of mine told me he fell in love with me. With both of them I spoke about it and I told them that I don't want to loose the friendship and that basically nothing will change for me. However, I'm still good friends with both of them and things got well for them as well
At the moment I'm in a similar situation tho.. I realized that I have really deep feelings for someone who's been a good friend for me for over two years now. I think there's something more coming from his side as well.. The problem is just to find out what I really want. I never had such deep feelings for a friend so it's hard for me to say if it's still friendship or if it's more. And since I'm not sure about myself, I'm hesitating to ask him.
Still, I'm thinking about him quite a lot and it's driving me crazy when I don't hear from him for a while *gg*.
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dizzyweasel
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| Eos wrote: | | Still, I'm thinking about him quite a lot and it's driving me crazy when I don't hear from him for a while *gg*. |
haha, i both hate and love that part! it's exciting and agonizing at the same time...i hope things work out for you, whichever way you decide to go with the situation.
i need to find a cute boy who lives around here, so i can be agonized and excited too.
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| dizzyweasel wrote: | | i need to find a cute boy who lives around here, so i can be agonized and excited too. |
"around here" is something I gave up *gg*.. all the guys I meet which I like live at least a few hours away by train 
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| Eos wrote: | | albinoni 2 wrote: | | I'll be always friend of Laura,even if she doesn't give me any kisses,because she is like me........and she'll be my only true love in my life.......because love-good friendship are so close that sometimes you want to give more.......Laura and also Shelley saved me from depression and misery.....only with a smile and some company |
| dizzyweasel wrote: | | best friends that try to change your relationship really bother me. |
It happened to me twice that a friend of mine told me he fell in love with me. With both of them I spoke about it and I told them that I don't want to loose the friendship and that basically nothing will change for me. However, I'm still good friends with both of them and things got well for them as well
At the moment I'm in a similar situation tho.. I realized that I have really deep feelings for someone who's been a good friend for me for over two years now. I think there's something more coming from his side as well.. The problem is just to find out what I really want. I never had such deep feelings for a friend so it's hard for me to say if it's still friendship or if it's more. And since I'm not sure about myself, I'm hesitating to ask him.
Still, I'm thinking about him quite a lot and it's driving me crazy when I don't hear from him for a while *gg*. |
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| my lack of english vocabulary ... and grammar ... |
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albinoni 2
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| silvery wrote: | | my lack of english vocabulary ... and grammar ... |
I have the same problem......and also pronunciation
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silvery
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| albinoni 2 wrote: | | silvery wrote: | | my lack of english vocabulary ... and grammar ... |
I have the same problem......and also pronunciation |
shit, i knew i forgot something  ... |
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dizzyweasel
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| Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2004 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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^ you guys seem to be doing excellently, in my opinion. much better than i would be in another language!
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